How To Have A Vibrant Sex Life
If you want to make the most of your sex life, these sex tips are a good way to start. As long as you're talking and listening to each other, you're well on the way to a healthy sex life. However, even the most contented lovers can have fun trying new things, so here are some ideas.
1. Build anticipation
Agree on a period of time, say one week, when you wonít have orgasms or penetrative sex. At first, allow only kissing and holding each other. Gradually move on to touching and stroking each other, masturbation, oral sex, or whatever feels right for you. But avoid orgasm. At the end of the week, allow yourselves the pleasure of orgasm, through any kind of sex you like. This week may help to heighten your senses to all the other wonderful feelings you can share when youíre having sex.
Massage can help you have very sensual sex. As part of foreplay, it's a great way to start things off slowly, and relax into the feel of each otherís skin as your arousal intensifies.
But a simple massage that doesnít lead to sex can also work wonders for your sex life. A non-sexual massage will familiarise (or refamiliarise) you with your partnerís body, reduce stress and reaffirm the intimacy between you. If you donít want a massage to lead to sex, discuss this with your partner so you can avoid any misunderstanding.
3. The senses
Good sex can embrace all the senses, not just touch. Scented oil for a massage (don't get oil on a latex condom as this can damage it), music and candles for soft lighting can all be erotic, as well as listening to your partnerís breathing and the sounds that they make. Taste each other as you kiss. If you both want to, you could mix food and sex - feed each other something delicious and juicy, such as strawberries.
Whether itís sweet nothings or your sexy intentions, whispering things to each other can add an extra thrill. It doesnít have to be during foreplay or sex. A sexy phone call leave both of you looking forward to the event for hours or days.
This works with texts and emails too, but make sure you send them to the right person, and remember that your employer has the right to access your work email.
5. Read a book
There are many books that have exercises and ideas to help you achieve a fulfilling sex life, whatever your age, gender, sexual orientation or taste. If youíve never thought about buying a book about sex, why not do it now? You might wish youíd done it years ago.
6. Share fantasies and desires
Everyone has unique fantasies, tastes and preferences when it comes to sex. From earlobes to ankles, hairline to hips, pirates to picnics, donít be afraid to talk about them. If you and your partner know about each otherís turn-ons, you can make the most of them.
7. Keep it clean
Weíre talking about your general hygiene. You donít have to keep yourself super-scrubbed: a certain amount of sweat is fine, as long as it isnít overwhelming. But be respectful towards your partner, and wash every day to prevent nasty smells and tastes.
Sex with a loving partner can be one of the most beautiful and intense experiences in life. Sometimes the best sex happens when youíre not worrying about making it exciting or orgasmic. Relax with your partner, and great sex may come and find you.